Here is a wonderful hand book which can be put to use daily….
I have interpreted this book in simple layman terms and hope you enjoy it as much as I did….
…..ALL YOU ARE DOING IS PUTTING WRINKLES IN YOUR BROW-AND THAT MAKES YOU LOOK OLDER YOU KNOW…….
The future is uncertain, scary, hidden. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t worry about things at times. We worry about our health, our parents/kids/friends, our relationships, our work and our spending.
We worry that we are getting older, fatter, poorer, more tired, less attractive, less fit, less mentally alert, less everything, really.
We worry about things that matter and things that don’t. Sometimes we worry about not worrying.
Look, it really is OK to worry. Just so long as there is something real to worry about. If there isn’t, then all you’re doing is putting wrinkles in your brow- and that makes you look older, you know.
The first step is to decide whether there is something you can do about whatever it is you are worrying about, or not. There are usually logical steps to take to eliminate that worry. I worry that people are not taking those steps, which means they are choosing to hang on to their worries rather than be free of them.
If you are worried then:
* Get Practical advice
* Get up-to -date information
* Do Something! Anything, as long as it is constructive.
If you are worrying about your health, go and see a doctor.
If you are worrying about money, set a budget and spend wisely.
If you are worrying about your weight, go the gym- eat less, do more.
If you are worrying about a lost kitten, phone the vet/police/local animal rescue.
If you are worrying about getting older, there is simply no point – it’s happening whether you worry or not.
If there is nothing you can do about your worry (or if are a persistent worrier, even bordering on the neurotic), then distraction is the only answer.
Get absorbed in something else. A man with the rather impressive name of Mikhail Csikszentmihalyi identified something called ‘flow”, where you are so absorbed in a task you are doing, so fully immersed, that you become almost unaware of external events. It’s a pleasurable experience and it completely banishes worry. He also said: The quality of our lives improves immensely when there is at least one other person who is willing to listen to our troubles.’
Worrying may be a symptom that you don’t really want to do something about the problem, it might be easier just to carry on worrying – or looking concerned and appearing to worry – rather than doing something about it.
It is OK to worry properly, profitably, usefully.
It is not OK to worry pointlessly or needlessly. Or at least it is OK, but it’s a colossal waste of life.
ONLY DEAD FISH SWIM WITH THE STREAM…….
Life is difficult. And the rule is to thank God (or whoever or whatever you choose to so think) it is so.
If it was all fluffy and easy we wouldn’t be tested, tried, forged in the fire of Life.
We wouldn’t grow or learn or change or have a chance to rise above ourselves.
If Life were a series of lovely days, we’d soon get bored.
If there was no rain, then there wouldn’t be any feeling of great joy when it is finally stopped and we could go to the beaches. If it was all easy we couldn’t get stronger.
So, be thankful it is struggle some of the time and recognize that only dead fish swim with the stream .
For the rest of us there will be times when it’s an uphill, upstream struggle.
We will have to battle waterfalls, weirs and raging torrents; but, we have no choice. We have to keep swimming or get swept away. And each flick of our tail, each surge of our fins makes us stronger and fitter, leaner and happier.
There is a statistics that suggests that for a lot of men, retirement is really a bad idea. Lots of them die within a relatively short time of handing over their brief case (I do not know if this affects just as adversely.). They have ceased to swim against the current and get swept away.
Keep swimming, little fish, keep swimming.
Try to see each setback as a chance to improve. They make you stronger not weaker.
You only get burdened with as much as you can carry – although, I do appreciate that, at times it may seem as if it’s a whole lot more and of course the struggles don’t come to an end, but there are lulls in between times- — backwaters where we can rest for a while and enjoy the moments before the next obstacle gets thrown our way.
That’s what life is, what it is meant to be: a series of struggles and lulls. And whatever situation you are in now, it’s going to change. So, what are you in? A Lull or A Struggle? Rain or going to the beach? Learning or enjoying? Dead fish or healthy Salmon?
Inspired by these thoughts of Richard Templar, I have penned the following, while sitting on the deck of my ship and thinking about my crew….
“… For every problem
There is a solution
Problem will be solved
Under the Moon or the Sun
Don’t stand still,
Be on the run ….,
Stagnant water is still
Let it flow.
Let the process start
Even if it is slow.
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